1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:04,050 well staring for me was peace of 2 00:00:04,050 --> 00:00:07,950 mind and um like 3 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:10,210 the feeling of being able to talk to 4 00:00:10,210 --> 00:00:12,730 somebody when I needed it , I knew if I 5 00:00:12,730 --> 00:00:14,897 was having any problems or I felt like 6 00:00:14,897 --> 00:00:17,830 I was being a crazy new mom like um 7 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:19,784 that there was something wrong and 8 00:00:19,784 --> 00:00:21,896 maybe there wasn't actually something 9 00:00:21,896 --> 00:00:23,896 wrong that I could just give them a 10 00:00:23,896 --> 00:00:26,760 call or walk in on monday at my 11 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:29,662 class time and just tell them like this 12 00:00:29,662 --> 00:00:31,551 is what I'm feeling . And so they 13 00:00:31,551 --> 00:00:33,607 either , you know , talked me off my 14 00:00:33,607 --> 00:00:35,607 ledge or um they told me like , you 15 00:00:35,607 --> 00:00:37,829 know , that's actually a good concern . 16 00:00:37,829 --> 00:00:37,670 That's something that we can talk about 17 00:00:37,670 --> 00:00:39,614 and that's something that will get 18 00:00:39,614 --> 00:00:41,726 checked out . Um It also was a really 19 00:00:41,726 --> 00:00:43,837 great thing for mental health because 20 00:00:43,837 --> 00:00:47,210 lots of moms especially like new 21 00:00:47,210 --> 00:00:50,390 moms and uh moms that are maybe doing 22 00:00:50,390 --> 00:00:53,240 it by themselves . It's really easy to 23 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:56,670 get kind of sucked into like pits of 24 00:00:56,670 --> 00:00:59,130 like depression and anxiety and then 25 00:00:59,140 --> 00:01:01,440 you feel guilty because at some point 26 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:04,170 your baby feels what you feel and so 27 00:01:04,180 --> 00:01:07,430 whenever I started having problems like 28 00:01:07,430 --> 00:01:09,541 that , the first thing I did was tell 29 00:01:09,541 --> 00:01:11,597 somebody , you know , I think that I 30 00:01:11,597 --> 00:01:13,597 need help with this and they did it 31 00:01:13,597 --> 00:01:15,430 right away . So it was just like 32 00:01:15,430 --> 00:01:17,486 security . Um centering was security 33 00:01:17,486 --> 00:01:18,660 for me , 34 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:23,750 wow ! 35 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:33,129 At first I did , I brought like a 36 00:01:33,129 --> 00:01:36,060 notebook , like a pin and I was ready 37 00:01:36,060 --> 00:01:38,116 to sit through like a class , like a 38 00:01:38,116 --> 00:01:40,590 college class setting type of thing and 39 00:01:40,590 --> 00:01:42,757 that's not what it was at all . We all 40 00:01:42,757 --> 00:01:45,820 sat in a circle . So it was like nobody 41 00:01:45,820 --> 00:01:47,709 was like facing somebody's back , 42 00:01:47,709 --> 00:01:49,376 everybody was included in the 43 00:01:49,376 --> 00:01:52,720 conversation and our providers sat with 44 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:55,770 us and we kind of have like like 45 00:01:55,770 --> 00:01:59,760 free um a 46 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:01,780 conversation like they would , they 47 00:02:01,780 --> 00:02:03,891 would start talking about something , 48 00:02:03,891 --> 00:02:06,058 they would educate us on what it is to 49 00:02:06,058 --> 00:02:08,113 say like breastfeeding and then they 50 00:02:08,113 --> 00:02:09,836 say how do you guys feel about 51 00:02:09,836 --> 00:02:12,058 breastfeeding and what are some of your 52 00:02:12,058 --> 00:02:13,947 concerns ? And it was a lot of um 53 00:02:13,947 --> 00:02:15,836 easing nerves especially as a new 54 00:02:15,836 --> 00:02:17,947 mother , like some of the women there 55 00:02:17,947 --> 00:02:21,330 um had had kids before and 56 00:02:21,340 --> 00:02:23,340 even they thought you know like I'm 57 00:02:23,340 --> 00:02:25,396 actually learning something , I feel 58 00:02:25,396 --> 00:02:27,673 like I'm getting something out of this . 59 00:02:27,673 --> 00:02:29,840 So it was nice to just feel like I was 60 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:29,720 included on the conversation rather 61 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:33,250 than being talked at . Yeah 62 00:02:33,260 --> 00:02:35,970 the first class really ? So I walked in 63 00:02:35,970 --> 00:02:38,137 and I was super nervous and then I saw 64 00:02:38,137 --> 00:02:40,560 all these other women that looked just 65 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,504 as nervous as I was and I was like 66 00:02:42,504 --> 00:02:44,616 we're in the same boat so I just kind 67 00:02:44,616 --> 00:02:47,150 of sat down next to someone and I was 68 00:02:47,150 --> 00:02:49,910 like this is my name and just went 69 00:02:49,910 --> 00:02:52,077 ahead and risk myself to one person so 70 00:02:52,077 --> 00:02:54,021 I knew that if I needed to talk to 71 00:02:54,021 --> 00:02:56,132 somebody and have at least one person 72 00:02:56,132 --> 00:02:58,188 and then it kind of just we all just 73 00:02:58,188 --> 00:03:00,460 kind of clicked and meshed so well . So 74 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:04,060 um I think a lot of us kind of we're 75 00:03:04,060 --> 00:03:06,650 concerned about the same things , just 76 00:03:06,650 --> 00:03:08,317 like different periods in our 77 00:03:08,317 --> 00:03:10,428 pregnancies . So whenever one mom was 78 00:03:10,428 --> 00:03:13,080 like I'm worried about like sleep 79 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:15,940 progression or I'm worried about actual 80 00:03:15,940 --> 00:03:17,960 labor , you know maybe they were a 81 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:20,127 little bit further along than somebody 82 00:03:20,127 --> 00:03:23,860 else and uh so whenever we got to that 83 00:03:23,860 --> 00:03:27,770 point we had them to like rely on to 84 00:03:27,780 --> 00:03:29,810 kind of calm our nerves about it a 85 00:03:29,810 --> 00:03:32,220 little bit and also for our providers 86 00:03:32,220 --> 00:03:34,870 to revisit those things . So it's all 87 00:03:34,870 --> 00:03:36,981 it's like a good thing to hear things 88 00:03:36,981 --> 00:03:40,840 twice . Sometimes mine was whenever 89 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:42,960 we talked to a nutritionist at the 90 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:45,016 beginning of my pregnancy , I lost a 91 00:03:45,016 --> 00:03:47,182 lot of weight because I wasn't able to 92 00:03:47,182 --> 00:03:50,130 keep anything down Um I wasn't able to 93 00:03:50,130 --> 00:03:52,352 even really drink water so I got really 94 00:03:52,352 --> 00:03:55,860 dehydrated um and I lost £20 at the 95 00:03:55,860 --> 00:03:57,916 beginning of my pregnancy . So I was 96 00:03:57,916 --> 00:04:00,027 really worried you know kind of about 97 00:04:00,030 --> 00:04:02,086 my baby and I was very very close to 98 00:04:02,086 --> 00:04:03,641 having to be like sent to a 99 00:04:03,641 --> 00:04:06,260 nutritionist to have guided like meal 100 00:04:06,260 --> 00:04:08,780 plan and so hearing just like little 101 00:04:08,780 --> 00:04:11,670 insights that she had for us um helped 102 00:04:11,670 --> 00:04:14,760 me a lot and I got into like finding 103 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:17,200 things that I could keep down and 104 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,230 figuring out ways to like have little 105 00:04:20,230 --> 00:04:22,750 small snacks throughout the day to like 106 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:24,982 supplement for like the three big meals 107 00:04:24,982 --> 00:04:27,149 you're supposed to have throughout the 108 00:04:27,149 --> 00:04:29,640 day so that helped me a lot , you know 109 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:31,807 you can't really plan a delivery but I 110 00:04:31,807 --> 00:04:33,862 didn't really go like the way that I 111 00:04:33,862 --> 00:04:36,320 envisioned it going . But they were 112 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:38,376 there for me like through the entire 113 00:04:38,376 --> 00:04:40,598 time like my midwife was in the O . R . 114 00:04:40,598 --> 00:04:43,040 With me and make sure I was comfortable . 115 00:04:43,050 --> 00:04:45,161 One of my nurses has came and visited 116 00:04:45,161 --> 00:04:47,494 me multiple times since we've been here . 117 00:04:47,494 --> 00:04:49,272 Um But they did have me feeling 118 00:04:49,272 --> 00:04:51,360 confident and if at our last session 119 00:04:51,360 --> 00:04:53,471 that we were all together that was my 120 00:04:53,471 --> 00:04:55,582 last session period . But some of the 121 00:04:55,582 --> 00:04:58,520 girls did uh individual ones after that 122 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:00,760 was having a baby . Um 123 00:05:01,540 --> 00:05:04,200 They made sure to you know pull me 124 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:06,200 inside and say do you have any more 125 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:08,367 questions about how this is gonna go ? 126 00:05:08,367 --> 00:05:10,644 Are you feeling okay ? Are you nervous ? 127 00:05:10,644 --> 00:05:13,620 Like do you need any more um 128 00:05:13,630 --> 00:05:15,980 guidance or anything ? So they were 129 00:05:15,980 --> 00:05:17,970 really really really good about 130 00:05:17,980 --> 00:05:20,091 checking in on me , making sure I was 131 00:05:20,091 --> 00:05:22,091 okay and even though I went in with 132 00:05:22,091 --> 00:05:24,258 nerves like everything went well and I 133 00:05:24,258 --> 00:05:26,369 was confident that it would because I 134 00:05:26,369 --> 00:05:29,540 had been taking care of so well . Yeah . 135 00:05:36,540 --> 00:05:40,340 Yeah . Oh yeah